Material and physical specifications of our future home is relatively easy to manage. But to make it into a real home is totally a different thing.
I did some bookshelf cleaning the other day and I found an old issue of Voices for Life, a bi-monthly publication of Human Life International Asia. In the pages of its Volume IV, Number 2 issue in 2000, I found this article about a good home as defined by the Committee on Home Responsibility of the National Conference of Juvenile Delinquency (USA). I'm posting here their definition for everyone to read.
A Good Home for Children - A good home for children may be a one-room apartment, a trailer, or a twelve-room house, but it is a good home for a child if:
- He is loved and wanted - and knows it.
- He is helped to grow up by not having too much or too little done for him.
- He has some time and some space of his own.
- He is part of the family, has fun with the family and belongs.
- His early mistakes and "badness" are understood as a normal part of growing up; he is corrected without being hurt, shamed or confused.
- His growing skills - walking, talking, reading, making things - are enjoyed and respected.
- He plans with the family and is given real ways to help and feel needed throughout childhood.
- He has freedom that fits his age and his needs; he has responsibilities that fit his age, abilities and freedom.
- He can say what he feels and talks things out without being afraid or ashamed; he can learn through mistakes as well as successes. And his parents appreciate his successes rather than dwell upon his failures.
- As he grows older, he knows his parents are doing the best they can; they know the same about him.
- He feels his parents care as much about him as they do about his brothers and sisters.
- The family prays and sticks together and the members help one another.
- He is moderately and consistently disciplined from infancy, has limits set for his behavior , and is helped to take increasing responsibility for his own action.
- He has something to believe in and work for because his parents have lived their ideals and religious faith.
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